Setting my mind straight

Another thing that I will have to do is to set my mind straight. I think many of us, who are obese, tend to set ourselves up to fail in our endeavors to lose weight. We will go so far with our efforts to lose weight and then somehow we will sabotage ourselves. It's like there is some sort of stumbling block that keeps us trapped in our present state of being overweight and obese.

I have had to ask myself just exactly what is the pay-off for not losing the weight.  The only pay-off I can see is that I don't have to worry about meeting people, because no one will actually notice me and want to be in a relationship with me anyway.  Staying obese protects me from being hurt by the men who would come into my life. This is not a good enough reason for me to stay overweight. Life is terrible as an overweight person. It's lonely. The image I see in the mirror is way beyond what I think of as normal.

The downside of remaining obese is that I will always feel that other people (especially people of normal weight will always look down on me as a lazy person, who doesn't care how she looks.  The common thought that people have is that fat people are lazy. Fat people are dumb. Fat people just don't care about themselves or anyone else. This is all a big heap of cognitive garbage, but it is how many perceive us to be. 

It's abusive to keep thinking the way I was thinking about myself. It's abusive for any person to hate themselves in such a way. Imagine thinking of your best friend the way you think about yourself. Would you say you hate how your friend looks? Would you say your friend is ugly? Of course not! So why do we do this to ourselves all the time?!

It's time to stop the chain of abuse. It's time to stop it now. If I can't think or say something good about myself, I won't say anything at all. I also feel that I should point out to others when I see or hear of them putting themselves down. It's not healthy. We should be parenting ourselves like we are precious children.

A good parent would not tell their children they are fat and ugly, so we shouldn't treat ourselves that way either. It's time to stop being mean to myself and to start showing myself that I am a person to be loved, respected and cherished. We all are.